Today would have been my 26th wedding anniversary. This is the second Unniversary post-divorce, and I wondered for a long while what I should do for this day.  I decided that March 2nd going forward would be a day of celebration of myself and my personal growth.  And to begin this annual tradition I made today Commitment Day.  I wrote promises to myself and then took a portrait in my ill-fitting wedding gown.

 The Promises I Am Making to Myself:

To remain curious about Life and what is to come

To remember the brevity of life and live each day to the best of my ability, to not waste a single one

To seek Beauty in all moments

To accept and love myself the way I so easily accept and love others

To stop forcing things that are not working

To take responsibility for all outcomes in my life because they were at some point my decision and for those that are less than I desire, I will analyze and work to discover what the unconscious motivation behind that decision was

To no longer live the stories that belong to my past selves

To give myself the freedom to make mistakes because that is where the learning comes from

To trust the intuition of my heart, mind, and body

To ask for help when I need it and open myself up to being vulnerable.

To choose myself and not remain in situations that don’t feed my soul as I lovingly create the life that I want.

To stand in my power and worth and not shrink myself for the comfort of other people.

To live outside of my comfort zone.

To keep love as the basis for all that I do; love of the moment, the place, the people, the actions, of myself

To be patient and kind with myself and never allow complacency, or sufficient or good enough in my life

To not pull back from fear but to walk boldly into it because that is where the growth happens

To care for my whole being with good food, exercise, and learning.

To speak my mind with love and grace

To remember my innate worth and value.

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I found this to be an empowering and wonderful exercise to do as I create my solo life in a deeper way.  It is also an offering that I will be including for my Cleveland, Ohio studio, that will be tailor made for each client looking to find themselves again after a divorce.